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This is the attachment style we see when somebody wants a connection and closeness, but at the same time they want to avoid a serious relationship.


That’s quite a contradiction, isn’t it?


What a curious disconnect. This longing to be close but a refusal to get into anything serious. The fear becomes overpowering.


No wonder these relationships lurch along, starting and stopping for no obvious reason. The self-doubt and the self-criticism keep things uncertain and off-balance.

There’s more to this than somebody not knowing what they want.


What we run into here is a pattern that tends to repeat itself. Events of the past return to shape today’s behaviors, feelings and desires. 


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Even if you’re pretty sure you don’t fit into this this style, it’s definitely helpful to understand it.   

When Relationships Blow Hot And Cold, the Reason Why Could Be A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.


Do you know someone who gets into a relationship and from the very start they are convinced the relationship is doomed?


It’s a pattern that can seem impossible to shake.


These people have the rarest of the 4 different attachment styles. It’s the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.

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characteristics of fearful avoidant, where it comes from, tendency to end up in abusive relationships.

[23:08-23:55] healing the traumatic pieces around childhood to help move to a more secure attachment style

[13:05-14:30] tend to end up in abusive relationships due to repeating pattern from childhood…you do what you know, unless you seek help

[24:53-25:33] if you’re the more secure partner with a fearful avoidant, be aware of not jumping in to rescue/care take, or self abandon

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