5 Steps to Make Time to Heal

How Do We Make Time to Heal?

One of the key components to healing is making time to do the things that are necessary for ourselves to heal after a relationship trauma.

A common theme we hear when we coach our clients is, “I want to work on myself, but I don’t have time or the luxury to do that when I have kids to take care of, and a job, and I’m playing the role of two parents, etc…. “

Those same clients often wonder why they are staying stuck in this cycle, living the same life, and not making any progress.

Here’s the hard truth, you aren’t going to find the time.


YOU have to make the time for that (coaching session or meditation or book you know you need to read to improve your life), because if you don’t, you will most likely fill your time with things that don’t accomplish healing.

Now you might be saying, I hear you but how?

Here are 5 things you can do to position yourself to have more time…

1-Ask yourself what gives you energy and what doesn’t.

When we feel lack of energy we tend to make poor choices, whereas when we have energy our choices become more positive and serving for us. An activity you can do is to look at your day and pick out the things you do that give you energy and the ones that drain you.

2-Clear one thing from your calendar.

A good example of clearing one thing from your calendar would be to look at your week and find something that you committed to that you really didn’t want to do, but saying yes was easier than saying no. Cancel that commitment. It might feel like you are letting someone down but you are actually letting yourself down by saying yes when you really want to say no. This will also free up your time to do something more meaningful for you.

3-Writing down your day (time diary).

Write down your entire day. Similar to a food diary make a day diary. This exercise will be eye opening when you lay out everything you actually put into your day. This will help you pin point things you can cut out so you can free up some of your time.

4-Check your phone for the amount of time you spend on social media.

Go into the app on your phone each day and see how much time you are spending on social media. Make a goal to cut your screen time in half.

5-Get up and hour early but start slow and do it in 15 minute increments.