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Are you Walking on Eggshells in your Relationship?

Here's what you need to know.

Do you ever find yourself struggling to say the right thing in your relationship? Feeling like you're caught in a lose-lose situation? That anxious feeling in your chest when you know you need to bring something up to your partner - it's like you're walking on eggshells. If you can relate, you're not alone. In this blog post, we'll delve into what it means to walk on shells in a relationship and provide some valuable insights on how to navigate this challenging terrain.

Are You Walking on Eggshells?

Walking on eggshells in a relationship can manifest in various ways, and it's essential to recognize the signs:

1. **Angry Reactions**: Your partner reacts angrily to minor triggers, causing tension and fear.

2. **Escalating Conflicts**: Small issues escalate into disproportionately large conflicts, making everyday conversations a battleground.

3. **Frequent Verbal Arguments**: Arguments become a regular part of your relationship, leaving both partners emotionally drained.

4. **Constant Tension**: You find yourself constantly on edge around your partner, never knowing what might set off another argument.

5. **Noticed by Others**: Friends and family members notice the tension in your relationship and express concern.

6. **Regular Fights**: Fights become a regular occurrence, making it difficult to maintain a harmonious partnership.

7. **Rare Apologies**: Your partner seldom apologizes for their actions or takes responsibility for their behavior.

8. **Deflection of Responsibility**: Your partner tends to deflect responsibility onto others, making it challenging to address issues together.

9. **Fearful Feelings**: You fear your partner due to their unpredictable behavior and outbursts.

10. **Diminished Self-Esteem**: Over time, the constant turmoil can lead to a significant decline in your self-esteem and overall well-being.

Navigating the Fragile Terrain

If you find yourself walking on eggshells in your relationship and you're concerned about improving your communication dynamics, here are some insights to consider:

**1. Speak Your Truth**: Open communication is vital. Holding back due to fear doesn't help the situation. However, if you're concerned about your physical safety, please prioritize your well-being and seek help from resources like the Domestic Violence hotline.

**2. Create Communication Boundaries**: If your partner is open to change, work together to set up communication boundaries. These boundaries create a safe space for both partners to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of reprisal. Examples include clarifying expectations around emotional states or discussing the best ways to handle tough days.

**3. Make a Plan for Change**: If your partner isn't willing to change, consider devising a plan to make yourself feel safer in the relationship. Deciding whether to stay or leave is a complex decision, and our "Should I Stay or Should I Go" course in the Reclaim You app can guide you through this difficult process.

Remember, the goal here isn't to assign blame but to create a space where both partners feel safe and understood. Whether you're recalibrating your communication or deciding on the next step, know that you deserve a healthy and respectful relationship.

Walking on eggshells in a relationship can be emotionally draining and challenging, but it's essential to address the issue rather than ignore it. By recognizing the signs, speaking your truth, creating communication boundaries, and making a plan for change, you can work towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Your well-being should always be a top priority, and seeking help and support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Remember, you deserve a relationship built on trust, respect, and understanding.

Access to Resources:

"Should I Stay or Should I Go" Course - you can try this course for free on our app for 7 days and check out our other resources: "7 days to Peace Challenge" "Gaslighting and Manipulation Seminar" "Container for Hard Moments" and more...


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