the Relationship Recovery podcast

Are you navigating a breakup or divorce? Are you wondering if you are dealing with something more serious, like narcissistic abuse, emotional, or physical abuse? Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you wonder if you will be able to heal and feel whole again? If these resonate you are in the right place.

Each week Kierstyn and Tiffany provide you with proven, practical resources that have helped thousands in our community and coaching cliental to help you overcome the obstacles of toxic relationships

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Ep: 119

Live Q&A with Tiffany and Kierstyn

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Do you have questions about your relationship? Is it toxic? What are red flags in dating? What is love bombing? 

 

Well, you aren't alone!

 

In this special episode, we answered our listener questions, and odds are, at least one of your questions was answered by Kierstyn and Tiffany as they coached people navigating relationship turmoil live.

 

Want your question answered? Don't worry! We will be doing this periodically, so make sure you are following us on Instagram to have your questions answered in the future!

Ep: 116

The Fearful Avoidant  
Attachment Style

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Do you know someone who gets into a relationship and from the very start they are convinced the relationship is doomed?

It’s a pattern that can seem impossible to shake.

These people have the rarest of the 4 different attachment styles.  It’s the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-How the opportunity for a deeper relationship can blow things up.

-Why some people constantly seek more intimacy but never get it.

-How the fear of rejection sets the tone for a relationship. 

-Why abused children often grow up to have the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. 

Ep: 113

What Are
The 4 Attachment 
Styles? 

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There are four basic attachment styles. 

Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful.

The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-Which one of the four attachment styles you most closely relate to.

-Why it can sometimes be so difficult to trust somebody.

-The different ways insecurity can poison a relationship. 

-Why it can be so easy to misinterpret your partner’s behaviors.

Ep: 110

First Step
to Blending a Family

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Chances are good that members of this new blended family are experiencing different levels of trauma.

Fortunately, there are ways to approach this and things you can do to prevent jealousies.

In this special podcast, you’ll find out: 

-How and when to address your non-negotiables.

-What you and your partner can do to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to kids’ discipline.

-How to spend “intentional time” with children to cultivate a deep relationship. 

-What to do to bridge the gap between 2 different parenting styles.

Ep: 107

Should I Stay in
My Relationship or Should I Go?

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Awareness & action are essential, and in this episode, we will share proven steps to help you connect to both while asking the question: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

In this episode: 

-The 4 steps to take to know if you should stay or if you should go.
-Why it’s vital to know your boundaries and safeguard them.
-Why keeping a journal can be so helpful. 
-How to get back the power you’ve lost to make decisions. 
-So set aside a few minutes, find a quiet place and spend some time with us on this podcast.
 

Ep: 104

Gaslighting: 
Intentional or Unintentional

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One of the most common questions we get around gaslighting is, does someone know they are gaslighting? This is a great debate.

In the traditional sense, gaslighting is not about love. It’s about power and control.  A Gaslighter is someone who needs to feel superior and who manipulates people to further their own agendas - when it's intentional. 

When gaslighting, the person finds a way to make the victim think they are “crazy” They gradually make you question your reality.

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss:

What is Gaslighting? How do you feel when you are being gaslighted and recognize it. What to do if you are being gaslighted. and is Gaslighting Intentional, or can it be Unintentional? You decide.

Join us for the great debate around Gaslighting and how to navigate it.

Ep: 101

Welcome to 

the Relationship Recovery

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Welcome to the Relationship Recovery Podcast!

We’re so happy you’re here.

If you are navigating complicated relationships right now, you are in the right place.

 

In this episode, we will be talking about who The Relationship Recovery is, how it all started, and who we serve.

In this episode will also answer the most popular question we get… “If you could give one piece of advice to someone that is just starting their journey, whether it’s trying to navigate staying in the relationship, leaving a relationship, or finding yourself again, what would you say?”

Ep: 118

Can you
determine
divorce by
length of years?

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No Matter Where You Are On Your Journey, It’s Helpful To Know When The Risks Of Divorce Are Highest.

Let’s spend a few minutes together to see how the risks of divorce rise and fall over the course of a marriage.  Even if this doesn’t directly apply to your situation, knowing about these risks gives you helpful insights.

In this podcast you’ll discover:

-Which years of a marriage are the safest with the lowest risk of divorce. 

-The “cheating years” and when they’re likely to take place. 

-The new risks that can surface in years 5-8 of a marriage.

-How to avoid the complacency traps of marriage.

Ep: 115

The Anxious 
Preoccupied  
Attachment Style

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Discover The Characteristics of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style.

Many feel underappreciated.

People in this attachment style often seem to stir up jealousy.

They worry a lot.  There are negative reactions – when there’s no need for these reactions to take place.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-Why roughly 1 in 5 people fall into this style.

-Why some people worry so much about abandonment.

-Why perfectionism and insecurity so often go hand in hand.

-How to move beyond the clinginess that can derail a relationship.

Ep: 112

How to Navigate a High Conflict Relationship

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Divorcing somebody with a personality disorder is one of the toughest things you’ll ever go through.  

It can spin out of control in a heartbeat.  You can easily stagger from something that’s difficult into something that’s a full-blown disaster.

But there are common sense steps you can take to soften the blows.

In this podcast you’ll discover…

-Why you need a strategy when you divorce somebody with a personality disorder.

-How to soften the blows of all the emotional terrorism you’re subjected to.

-How to be intentional and why this is so helpful.

-What to do when there are kids.

Ep: 109

Refueling After
a Breakup

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You don’t need to feel stuck.  

There are simple things you can do to speed up the healing process… without watering it down or making it superficial.

Like many things in life, taking the first step is the hardest part of the process.  Fortunately, this first step doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this special episode you will find:

-Why you lose so much physical and mental energy following a breakup. 

-What to do about getting this energy back.

-How to shorten the amount of time the healing process takes. 

-Why so many people benefit from a simple morning routine. 

Ep: 106

Self Sabotaging While Dealing with A Toxic Partner or Ex

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We all do it.  We sabotage ourselves in all kinds of different ways and for all kinds of different reasons.

Including when we are dealing with a toxic partner or ex-partner. 

Will this ever stop?  Are there practices we can follow to make self-sabotage less of a habit?

In this episode, we will show you how to get started.

Like so many other steps we take on our healing journey, the first step is awareness, an understanding of what self-sabotage really is.

It’s essential to know how this disrupts your relationship, your life and your healing.

The challenge is to stop piling on shame.

To help, we’re sharing a collection of insights and tools you can use to push back against self-sabotage.  

Ep: 103

Love Bombing:
Is it Happening to You?

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“How do you know if you are being Love-Bombed?” is one of the most common dating questions we receive.  

 

Love bombing is a common tactic used by a narcissistic abuser. They shower you with gifts, words, affection until they feel like they have you hooked. Once you are hooked, they change their tone and become highly critical of you until they discard you altogether. 

 

Being on the receiving end of love bombing can be seductive and overwhelming.  It can happen in any relationship, not just romantic.  So it's crucial for everyone to learn the signs to avoid getting stuck in the web. 

 

In this week's episode, we will be breaking down what love bombing is, what the signs are, what the narcissistic abuse cycle is, and what part love bombing comes in, and answering all our listeners' questions about love bombing. You won't want to miss this one! 

Ep: 117

The Secure 
Attachment
Style

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Now it’s time to explore The Secure Attachment Style.

This is the style that lets us get the most out of a relationship.  

(It also lets us give the most.)

What does it take to be a securely attached adult?

Just like the other attachment styles, the die is cast in infancy and early childhood.

But even people who have an attachment style that’s Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive- Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant can put this behind.

It’s not impossible to shift into The Secure Attachment Style.

If you’d like to find out how, and why this style is the foundation of virtually every great relationship, please join us for this podcast.

Ep: 114

The Dismissive - Avoidant Attachment Style

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Discover The Characteristics Of The Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style.

Attachment styles mean so much.

So, we’re giving you an in-depth look at each of the 4 different styles.  This week the focus is on the Dismissive-Avoidant Style. 

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-What specific problems the Dismissive-Avoidant Style can easily ignite.

-Why negative feelings are ignored and how this usually makes things even worse.

-The curious reason why limits are placed on commitment. 

-The most helpful things to do if you feel this is your attachment style.

Ep: 111

How to
Get Unstuck

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Getting unstuck takes intentional work and this work begins with awareness.

This awareness helps you see for yourself what the best small steps to take to move forward will be.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-What happens when the body sends an early warning signal to the brain.

-Why looking for “little moments” can help break the cycle of feeling stuck.

-The power of distractions to get yourself unstuck.

-Why it’s so easy to overcomplicate the process of getting out of limbo. 

Ep: 108

What Actually
is a Narcissist?

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Unless you’re a professional, you can’t clinically diagnose a narcissistic personality disorder.

It’s confusing and complex.

But there’s nothing confusing or ambiguous about the pain somebody with a narcissistic personality disorder, or someone with narcissistic traits for that matter, can cause.  

In this podcast, you’ll discover:  

-What makes narcissism so confusing.
-Why a sense of self-entitlement can be so toxic.
-Why narcissists like to accuse other people of being too sensitive.
-What scares the narcissist more than anything else.
 

Ep: 105

Red Flags:
Ignore Now,
Pay Later

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Wouldn’t it be nice if we could size up relationships and evaluate them before we discover we’ve made a terrible mistake?

None of us have crystal balls. But all of us can fine-tune our intuition and awareness so we see the red flags instead of ignoring them.

This week’s podcast gives you ways to notice these red flags, put them in context and decide what actions to take.

Kierstyn and Tiffany share red flags they've experienced, and what the community is navigating as a whole.  

Join us so you can take action now when you see flags vs paying later. 

Ep: 102

4 Steps
to Break 

Trauma Bond

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Have you tried to leave your relationship and can’t? Do you leave only to return back to the situation that you know is not good for you?

In this episode, we will be covering “Trauma Bonds” in detail. We will educate you on what they are but more importantly, we will give you some tools to help you begin to break that bond that holds you tightly in a toxic abusive relationship.

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