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Are you navigating a breakup or divorce? Are you wondering if you are dealing with something more serious, like narcissistic abuse, emotional, or physical abuse? Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you wonder if you will be able to heal and feel whole again? If these resonate you are in the right place.

Each week Kierstyn and Tiffany provide you with proven, practical resources that have helped thousands in our community and coaching cliental to help you overcome the obstacles of toxic relationships

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Ep: 164 & Ep: 165

7 Things to Consider Before Getting Divorce
Pt. 1 & 2

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Today's episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast is a powerful one. Join Tiffany and Kierstyn as they wrap-up part two of 7 key things to consider before you end your relationship. 

Sometimes, it is possible to save a relationship if we can take a step back and evaluate our situation, and these 7 questions are meant to help you find clarity. 

However, if you are experiencing any kind of abuse, it is not acceptable and may warrant a safety and exit plan. This episode will help you to identify if this is what you may be experiencing.

Ep: 161

Navigating a Toxic Workplace with Frankie & Jess
Pt. 1

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In this powerful episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany welcome legendary radio personalities Frankie and Jess to discuss their recent experience navigating a toxic workplace.

​This episode is a celebration of friendship, resilience, and chasing your dreams, no matter what life throws your way. So, grab your headphones, hit play, and get ready to be empowered and inspired by Frankie and Jess!

Ep: 158

Are You Trauma Bonded?: Signs, Red Flags, and Next Steps for Healing 

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In this episode you'll gain insights into: The science behind trauma bonds… Discover why these bonds are so difficult to break. Your brain gets hooked on the highs of the relationship, releasing feel-good chemicals, and then whipsaws you with the lows, flooding your system with stress hormones. This constant rollercoaster keeps you stuck in a fight-or-flight mode, making it challenging to think clearly and prioritize your own well-being.

What types of relationships can be affected… Trauma bonds can form in any type of relationship, including friendships, family ties, and even work environments. You're not alone if you're experiencing this in a non-romantic context.

Validation and hope… If you suspect you're caught in a trauma bond, this episode will resonate deeply. You'll receive validation for your experiences and gain valuable tools to begin the healing process.

How to break free… Kierstyn and Tiffany offer actionable tips to break the cycle of a trauma bond and prioritize your own well-being.

Ep: 155

A Tool for
Healing in the New Year

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As we begin the new year, we're focusing on tools for personal growth and well-being. In this episode, we talk about the power of meditation, specifically its benefits for healing relationship trauma.

Meditation offers a powerful tool for navigating the journey of healing from relationship trauma. By incorporating it into your routine, you can cultivate greater peace, emotional resilience, and self-compassion, ultimately supporting your personal well-being and growth.

 

This is an episode you don’t want to miss as we give you a specific meditation tool for healing as you move into the new year!

Ep: 152

Tis the Season
For Narcissistic Chaos

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This week the show addresses a follower's question about dealing with a narcissistic partner during the holidays. Kierstyn & Tiffany emphasize that we are not diagnosing but aim to provide support and education.

 

We discuss reasons narcissists might disrupt holidays, such as the need for attention, lack of empathy, high expectations, control issues, fear of rejection, jealousy, and an inability to tolerate imperfection.

We encourage prioritizing mental health and finding moments of joy during challenging situations.

Ep: 149

7 Days to Peace Challenge

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In this episode Kierstyn & Tiffany give you a breakdown of their new resource for healing after a breakup or challenging relationship—the FREE  7-Days to Peace Challenge available now!

 

In this episode we highlight the challenge and give you valuable ideas of how to start living in a place of peace after chaos.

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 146

How to Rebuild Yourself After a Toxic Relationship

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We understand that recovering your confidence can be an uphill battle, and in today's episode, we're here to help you navigate that path.

 

Join us as we explore a range of strategies, insights, and personal experiences that can empower you to heal and reclaim your sense of self.

 

We'll discuss the emotional toll of toxic relationships, how they erode your self-esteem, and the importance of recognizing and acknowledging the damage that has been done. 

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 142

Toxic Friendships Break Hearts
Too.

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Friendships are often seen as sources of joy, support, and companionship, but what happens when they turn toxic?

 

Toxic friendships can be just as emotionally draining and detrimental as toxic romantic or family relationships. In this podcast episode, we delve into the world of toxic friendships, shedding light on the importance of recognizing and addressing them. 

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 139

3 Tiers to Support you in Your Relationship Recovery

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Are you navigating a breakup or divorce? Are you wondering if you are dealing with something more serious, like narcissistic abuse, emotional, or physical abuse? Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you wonder if you will be able to heal and feel whole again? If these resonate you are in the right place.

 

Each week Kierstyn and Tiffany provide you with proven, practical resources that have helped thousands in our community and coaching cliental to help you overcome the obstacles of toxic relationships. 

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 135

What are the
4 Attachment Styles?

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Have you ever thought about how you relate to other people? Have you considered the ways you either trust or hold back trust, and how ingrained patterns of behavior set the tone for your relationships?

If so, one of the big pieces of how this takes place is your attachment style.

We all have one. Attachment styles begin to form when we are very young. The way they develop shape our security, our ability to deal with stress, how we set boundaries and more.

There are four basic attachment styles:

Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful.

 

The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge.

Ep: 133

Signs of an Emotionally
Safe Partner

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What does it mean to be a safe person and are you one? Is the person you are in a relationship with a safe person and how do you know? What are the signs to look out for? In today's episode we are sharing 5 characteristics that safe people share.

  1. Partner is open to listening versus being dismissive

  2. They know and express their boundaries and honor yours

  3. They take the space they need when they need it, and they allow you to do that too.

  4. They apologize and work to improve

  5. They take accountability for their actions

 

Hollywood Hot Take for this week: We share our thoughts on the Hailey Bieber and Selena Gomez drama.

Ep: 129

Life's Too Short
to Stay In Relationship Limbo

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This past week we were rocked with the news of a passing by someone big in the personal development space, Dave Hollis. Anytime sudden loss happens, whether to you directly, or when you hear about someone you "know" or someone that you  follow online,  it gets you thinking. Loss comes with a lot of pain, but it also has the power to drive love and and purpose in a lot of ways. 

 

Sometimes with loss we get the opportunity to do a lot of reflecting and look at the relationships that we have with others, and it gives us the desire to strengthen those relationships because we can really see that life is too short. It’s too short to stay in relationship limbo. 

Ep: 126

What 30 Dates
in 3 Days
Taught Gabi Conti

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Gabi Conti is the the host of the popular podcast "Am I Dating a Serial Killer?" and the author of "20 Guys You Date In Your 20's".

 

We got to sit down with Gabi and talk about her experience with dating apps and more specifically the time she went on 30 dates in 3 days. No, that is not a typo. She really did do 10 dates a day one weekend and learned A LOT.  

 

Join in our convo today as Gabi shares her experiences, insights, and lots of dating tips and how to make the numbers game work for you.

Ep: 123

Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Part 2

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One of the most common questions that we get is should I stay or should I go? Especially at the beginning of a new year, this is a question that might be on your mind. Is it time to say goodbye and make a change? Or is it time to dig in and really fight for this relationship. 

Tiffany and Kierstyn walk through how to trust your intuition and what you can do to feel more  empowered.  This episode will help you shift the focus to back to yourself and away from the other person,  in a way that helps you see what the best decision is for you.  Learning to trust yourself and learning how to let go are powerful lessons that we dive into in this episode and helping you really decide if you should stay or go.

Ep: 120

Finding Joy
in a
Difficult Season

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The Relationship Recovery Podcast is back for season 2!! We are shaking things up and here's what can expect this season. We've got fun new segments, like Hollywood Hot Takes, Weekly Affirmations, Live Q&A's and so much more. 

For this episode we wanted to talk to you about the holidays and if you are feeling like it's a little hard to find joy in this season. If so, this episode is for you.
We are sharing our favorite tools for taking care of yourself during a hard season (like the holidays). We cover how to maintain boundaries, creating your own magical holiday experiences, being proactive vs reactive, the power of gratitude, how to pour into yourself and so much more.

Ep: 117

The Secure 
Attachment
Style

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Now it’s time to explore The Secure Attachment Style.

This is the style that lets us get the most out of a relationship.  

(It also lets us give the most.)

What does it take to be a securely attached adult?

Just like the other attachment styles, the die is cast in infancy and early childhood.

But even people who have an attachment style that’s Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive- Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant can put this behind.

It’s not impossible to shift into The Secure Attachment Style.

If you’d like to find out how, and why this style is the foundation of virtually every great relationship, please join us for this podcast.

Ep: 114

The Dismissive - Avoidant Attachment Style

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Discover The Characteristics Of The Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style.

Attachment styles mean so much.

So, we’re giving you an in-depth look at each of the 4 different styles.  This week the focus is on the Dismissive-Avoidant Style. 

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-What specific problems the Dismissive-Avoidant Style can easily ignite.

-Why negative feelings are ignored and how this usually makes things even worse.

-The curious reason why limits are placed on commitment. 

-The most helpful things to do if you feel this is your attachment style.

Ep: 111

How to
Get Unstuck

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Getting unstuck takes intentional work and this work begins with awareness.

This awareness helps you see for yourself what the best small steps to take to move forward will be.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-What happens when the body sends an early warning signal to the brain.

-Why looking for “little moments” can help break the cycle of feeling stuck.

-The power of distractions to get yourself unstuck.

-Why it’s so easy to overcomplicate the process of getting out of limbo. 

Ep: 108

What Actually
is a Narcissist?

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Unless you’re a professional, you can’t clinically diagnose a narcissistic personality disorder.

It’s confusing and complex.

But there’s nothing confusing or ambiguous about the pain somebody with a narcissistic personality disorder, or someone with narcissistic traits for that matter, can cause.  

In this podcast, you’ll discover:  

-What makes narcissism so confusing.
-Why a sense of self-entitlement can be so toxic.
-Why narcissists like to accuse other people of being too sensitive.
-What scares the narcissist more than anything else.

 

Ep: 105

Red Flags:
Ignore Now,
Pay Later

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Wouldn’t it be nice if we could size up relationships and evaluate them before we discover we’ve made a terrible mistake?

None of us have crystal balls. But all of us can fine-tune our intuition and awareness so we see the red flags instead of ignoring them.

This week’s podcast gives you ways to notice these red flags, put them in context and decide what actions to take.

Kierstyn and Tiffany share red flags they've experienced, and what the community is navigating as a whole.  

Join us so you can take action now when you see flags vs paying later. 

Ep: 102

4 Steps
to Break 

Trauma Bond

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Have you tried to leave your relationship and can’t? Do you leave only to return back to the situation that you know is not good for you?

In this episode, we will be covering “Trauma Bonds” in detail. We will educate you on what they are but more importantly, we will give you some tools to help you begin to break that bond that holds you tightly in a toxic abusive relationship.

Ep: 163

From Heartbreak to Empowerment with Carly Story: A Relationship Recovery Client Story

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This episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast is a powerful journey of healing alongside one of our very first coaching clients. Kierstyn and Tiffany interview Carly as she shares her story of heartbreak and the path she took to recover from narcissistic abuse. She shares her experience with The Relationship Recovery coaching program and how it has impacted her life.

Ep: 160

Cheating Beyond the Physical: What You Need to Know 

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In this episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, hosts Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the complex and often murky world of cheating, challenging our typical black-and-white understanding. Forget the limited definition of physical infidelity; they unpack the various forms it can take and the complexities hidden within each.

  • Cheating isn't just physical intimacy outside a relationship. It can include emotional affairs, online flirtations, micro-cheating, and neglecting emotional needs.

  • Emotional affairs: Deep connections with someone outside the relationship, sharing vulnerabilities that should be reserved for your partner.

  • Online interactions: The line between harmless fun and emotional betrayal can be blurry, depending on the intent and boundaries.

  • Micro-cheating: Seemingly small actions that chip away at trust, like secrecy or prioritizing someone else's needs.

Ep: 157

When Your Fairytale Relationship Turns out to be a Nightmare

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In this episode, Tiffany and Kierstyn take a deep look into why relationships sometimes start out as fairytales yet ultimately end up being your biggest nightmare. 

They discuss what red flags look like in the beginning of these types of relationships and they discuss what it really takes to get out of toxic relationships. 

Tiffany and Kierstyn share insights on healing and finding healthy love after the storm, with personal stories of meeting their significant others, TJ and Tim, and how they navigate healthy relationships. 

 

This episode serves as a guide for listeners navigating the journey from being sold a fantasy relationship that ended up being a nightmare to healing and finding healthy love.

Ep: 154

Navigating Boundaries with Dysfunctional Family Members During the Holidays

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In this episode, we address a common struggle faced by many—setting and holding boundaries with dysfunctional family members during the holiday season.

 

Tiffany and Kierstyn share valuable insights, outlining behaviors to watch for and offering practical tips to help you navigate challenging family dynamics.

Remember, you're not alone, and seeking support from friends, professionals, or support groups can be instrumental in navigating challenging family dynamics during the holidays.

Ep: 151

Navigating the Holidays After Divorce & Heartbreak Part 2

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This week we are going to highlight the importance of acknowledging and addressing a wide range of emotions associated with this challenging season.

We are going to talk about acknowledging your feelings and discuss the spectrum of emotions post-divorce, including loneliness, sadness, and anger. Kierstyn and Tiffany stress the significance of acknowledging and allowing oneself to grieve the loss of the previous family structure.

We are going to give you tips for processing emotions and explore practical strategies for processing emotions.

Ep: 148

A True Blended Family Story
Part 2

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In the second part of this two-part episode, Kierstyn Franklin and her husband T.J continue answering  follower questions from Instagram, from how they met, what their blended family looks like, how it’s been parallel/co-parenting, how they support each other's continued healing and so much more.

 

This is a fun, vulnerable, and insightful podcast into a real-life blended family, and you won’t

want to miss it.

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 145

High Conflict
Co-Parenting

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Today, Kierstyn and Tiffany are discussing the challenges of high-conflict co-parenting in this episode. High-conflict co-parenting can be extremely challenging for parents and, more importantly, for the children involved. We discuss strategies in the episode to make high-conflict co-parenting a bit easier to cope with. 

 

In their discussion, Kierstyn and Tiffany emphasize the importance of effective communication in high-conflict co-parenting situations, advocating for clear, respectful, and concise communication through written channels like emails and texts to prevent misunderstandings and heated arguments. They also discuss the importance of boundaries. 

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 141

Are You Caught in the Grip of Relationship Addiction?

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Recent research shows that it's possible to become addicted to a relationship, a phenomenon referred to as love addiction.

 

Picture this: the rush of happiness at the start of a relationship when those feel-good chemicals like endorphins and dopamine flood your brain, making you feel like you're on top of the world. But when things turn unhealthy or the relationship ends, you're suddenly hit with a wave of deep sadness and depression. It's a tough emotional roller coaster to navigate.

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 138

How to Boost your
Energy to
Healing

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You need energy to heal. It's one of our core foundations and is a huge piece to healing. In fact, one of the reasons you may have failed before in the past to do the work to heal is because you didn't have enough energy for it.

You're depleted. And just like anything else, if you're completely depleted, you're not gonna be able to do the work.

In today's episode we cover why managing your energy is so important, how to take inventory of energy boosters and energy suckers, what routines WE do, and give you tips to help you manage your energy to help you heal.

Join us for a 7 day challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app!

Ep: 135

Anchors to
Keep You Motivated to Heal 

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In this episode we are going to be talking about anchors and how you can use them in your healing journeys, your daily life, to work towards different goals and in any other way that they are helpful to you.

 

We use anchors throughout our coaching. We also use them all of the time in our daily life and most other situations as well.

Ep: 131

Taylor Frankie Paul DV & Listener Questions

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It's a Hollywood Hot Take Takeover today with the recent news of local (to us) influencer Taylor Frankie Paul being arrested on Domestic Violence charges. Tiffany and Kierstyn dive head first into this topic, covering what this type of abuse looks like, why it’s not only women who are victims, men can be too, why it's hard to get out, trauma bonds, and addictions. 

 

While it’s easy to get sucked into Instagram and Tik Tok drama we wanted to use this real life example to talk about domestic violence and more importantly make sure we offer resources for where you can find help if you or someone who know is in this type of situation. 

 

You can find help and resources at FADV.org and  https://www.thehotline.org 

Ep: 128

Emotional Abuse is Literally Shrinking Your Brain

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Did you know your brain physically shrinks from cortisol hormone spikes? This week we are diving into the relationship between our brain and abuse.

 

Research from Stanford University has shown a direct correlation between the shrinking of the hippocampus and high levels of cortisol. 

 

When you are in an emotionally abusive relationship you are under high levels of stress for long period of time. Causing a spike in cortisol which can then lead to the shrinking of your hippocampus- the part of your brain where memories are retained and released.  Hence why many who have been in these relationships claim they have short term memory loss and confusion. 

Ep: 125

Relationship Anxiety

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Have you ever wondered if you're just incapable of maintaining a healthy, committed relationship? This constant worry has a name, and it's called relationship anxiety. This is so common, in fact we see it in our clients all the time. It refers to those feelings of worry and security and doubt that can pop up in a relationship, even if everything's going relatively well.

 

In this episode we cover what is relationship anxiety and how does it manifest in relationships. We’ll talk about how to recognize if you are sabotaging the relationship out of fear and what to do about it.

Ep: 122

Setting
Intentions vs Goals

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New Years is the time where it seems like everyone, everywhere are busy making goals. But this year we want to invite you to change your mindset from making goals to setting intentions. In today’s episode we walk you through this mindset shift and explain why the difference is so powerful. 

 

If you struggle with perfectionism around goals then shifting to intentions will help break the failure cycle that sometimes come along with goal and a perfectionism view.  How many times have you set a goal at the new year, only to feel discouraged by January 27th? It sucks, and we don’t want that for you this year. 

Ep: 119

Live Q&A with Tiffany and Kierstyn

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Do you have questions about your relationship? Is it toxic? What are red flags in dating? What is love bombing? 

 

Well, you aren't alone!

 

In this special episode, we answered our listener questions, and odds are, at least one of your questions was answered by Kierstyn and Tiffany as they coached people navigating relationship turmoil live.

 

Want your question answered? Don't worry! We will be doing this periodically, so make sure you are following us on Instagram to have your questions answered in the future!

Ep: 116

The Fearful Avoidant  
Attachment Style

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Do you know someone who gets into a relationship and from the very start they are convinced the relationship is doomed?

It’s a pattern that can seem impossible to shake.

These people have the rarest of the 4 different attachment styles.  It’s the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-How the opportunity for a deeper relationship can blow things up.

-Why some people constantly seek more intimacy but never get it.

-How the fear of rejection sets the tone for a relationship. 

-Why abused children often grow up to have the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. 

Ep: 113

What Are
The 4 Attachment 
Styles? 

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There are four basic attachment styles. 

Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful.

The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-Which one of the four attachment styles you most closely relate to.

-Why it can sometimes be so difficult to trust somebody.

-The different ways insecurity can poison a relationship. 

-Why it can be so easy to misinterpret your partner’s behaviors.

Ep: 110

First Step
to Blending a Family

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Chances are good that members of this new blended family are experiencing different levels of trauma.

Fortunately, there are ways to approach this and things you can do to prevent jealousies.

In this special podcast, you’ll find out: 

-How and when to address your non-negotiables.

-What you and your partner can do to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to kids’ discipline.

-How to spend “intentional time” with children to cultivate a deep relationship. 

-What to do to bridge the gap between 2 different parenting styles.

Ep: 107

Should I Stay in
My Relationship or Should I Go?

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Awareness & action are essential, and in this episode, we will share proven steps to help you connect to both while asking the question: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

In this episode: 

-The 4 steps to take to know if you should stay or if you should go.
-Why it’s vital to know your boundaries and safeguard them.
-Why keeping a journal can be so helpful. 
-How to get back the power you’ve lost to make decisions. 
-So set aside a few minutes, find a quiet place and spend some time with us on this podcast.

 

Ep: 104

Gaslighting: 
Intentional or Unintentional

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One of the most common questions we get around gaslighting is, does someone know they are gaslighting? This is a great debate.

In the traditional sense, gaslighting is not about love. It’s about power and control.  A Gaslighter is someone who needs to feel superior and who manipulates people to further their own agendas - when it's intentional. 

When gaslighting, the person finds a way to make the victim think they are “crazy” They gradually make you question your reality.

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss:

What is Gaslighting? How do you feel when you are being gaslighted and recognize it. What to do if you are being gaslighted. and is Gaslighting Intentional, or can it be Unintentional? You decide.

Join us for the great debate around Gaslighting and how to navigate it.

Ep: 101

Welcome to 
the Relationship Recovery

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Welcome to the Relationship Recovery Podcast!

We’re so happy you’re here.

If you are navigating complicated relationships right now, you are in the right place.

 

In this episode, we will be talking about who The Relationship Recovery is, how it all started, and who we serve.

In this episode will also answer the most popular question we get… “If you could give one piece of advice to someone that is just starting their journey, whether it’s trying to navigate staying in the relationship, leaving a relationship, or finding yourself again, what would you say?”

Ep: 162

Navigating a Toxic Workplace with Frankie & Jess
Pt. 2

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In this powerful episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany welcome legendary radio personalities Frankie and Jess to discuss their recent experience navigating a toxic workplace.

​This episode is a celebration of friendship, resilience, and chasing your dreams, no matter what life throws your way. So, grab your headphones, hit play, and get ready to be empowered and inspired by Frankie and Jess!

Ep: 159

Gaslighting in Relationships: The Damage It Does & How to Stop It

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In this Episode Tiffany & Kierstyn discuss:

  • What is gaslighting? A manipulative tactic aiming to make someone doubt their reality, memory, or perception.

  • Impact of gaslighting:  Extremely damaging, eroding self-trust and leading to anxiety, depression, and relationship struggles.

  • Recognizing gaslighting: Can be subtle and difficult to identify while in the situation.

  • Healing from gaslighting:

    • Self-awareness: Acknowledge your experience.

    • Seek support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist.

    • Set boundaries: Regain control and say no to toxicity.

    • Practice self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Ep: 156

Finding Your What and Why for Moving on from Relationship Trauma

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In this quick tip episode, we discuss the importance of knowing your what and why for moving on after relationship trauma. 

We give a specific tool and technique to help you uncover your true why for wanting to do the work to heal the pain left from the relationship so you can move forward to a life of peace and happiness.

Remember you are not alone in any of it. Seek support. 

Ep: 153

Q & A With
Tiffany and Kierstyn

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In this episode Kierstyn & Tiffany answer YOUR questions on the podcast.

 

Everything from trauma bonds, coparenting, navigating heartbreak and more.

Follow us on Instagram so you can submit any questions you might have for our founders to answer! We love doing this episode because the topics are what YOU want to hear about

Ep: 150

Navigating the Holidays After Divorce & Heartbreak Part 1

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This week we are going to highlight the importance of acknowledging and addressing a wide range of emotions associated with this challenging season.

We are going to talk about acknowledging your feelings and discuss the spectrum of emotions post-divorce, including loneliness, sadness, and anger. Kierstyn and Tiffany stress the significance of acknowledging and allowing oneself to grieve the loss of the previous family structure.

We are going to give you tips for processing emotions and explore practical strategies for processing emotions.

Ep: 147

A True Blended Family Story
Part 1

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In this two-part episode, Kierstyn Franklin welcomes her husband, T.J Franklin, on the show to fill in for Tiffany while she’s on vacation and to answer listener questions about their relationship and blending their family.

 

For the Hollywood Hot-take, they kick it off, weighing in on Jada Pinkett Smith and her “oversharing” of marital separation and turmoil in her marriage to Will Smith. Kierstyn & T.J. then answer follower questions from Instagram, from how they met, what their blended family looks like, how it’s been parallel/co-parenting, how they support each other's continued healing and more.

 

This is a fun, vulnerable, and insightful podcast into a real-life blended family, and you won’t

want to miss it.

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 143 & 144

When Influencers Use Their Influence For Bad Parts 1 &2

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Join Kierstyn and Tiffany today for part one & two of our experience with Candace Lierd Rivera and Exitus. Candace is currently being held without bail for over 30 felonies.

 

We are concluding our take on the situation and the lessons we learned.

 

In these episodes, they will use real-life examples of red flags, love bombing, and more and what they look like in work friendships. Their focus is to help you to watch for them in your own life.

Ep: 140

Are You Walking on Eggshells
inY
our 
Relationship?

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Do you ever find yourself struggling to say the right thing in your relationship? Feeling like you're caught in a lose-lose situation? That anxious feeling in your chest when you know you need to bring something up to your partner - it's like you're walking on eggshells.

 

Well, this episode is tailor-made for you.

www.therelationshiprecovery.com // @therelationshiprecovery

Ep: 136

Mantras for Healing + a BIG Announcement

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Words hold a lot of power and one of the first things we like to do in coaching is help you set up a declaration for healing, or a mantra that you can use to support yourself in your healing. We each share some of our past and current healing mantras and encourage you to set up some for yourself. You can do this no matter where you are at in your relationship recovery.

AND.....

We have been holding on to some big news and working behind the scenes on something for over a YEAR and it's finally ready for you! We have an app! It's full of courses, workshops, guides, and so many other resources and it's constantly updated to continue to help you in every part of your journey.

Find our brand new Reclaim You App HERE!

Ep: 134

Are Social Media Filters Hurting Your Self-Worth?

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This episode is inspired straight from our real life.

 

When Kierstyn found herself feeling a little 'less than' and went diving into the reason why, she found that social media filters were totally wrecking havoc on her self esteem and quite honestly causing a little bit of body dysmorphia.

 

Today Tiffany and Kierstyn open up a conversation on the relationship you have with yourself, how you can take inventory on the things that are effecting that relationship, and how to get back to a place where you're feeling good about you.

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Ep: 130

5 Steps to
Setting Boundaries with a Toxic Person

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This episode we are diving into boundaries and specifically boundaries with a narcissist.

 

This is an important topic because so often we think that when we are dealing with a toxic person or somebody with a personality disorder we go straight to just cutting them out of our lives completely and we often don’t think to use boundaries. 

 

The truth is though, that we can’t always cut people out of our lives and by learning how to apply better boundaries we can help ourselves to have better relationships and interactions with those people. 

Ep: 127

5 Green Flags
to Look for
when Dating

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This week we are continuing the theme of dating. It's easily one of our most requested topics. A lot of you are worried about red flags and continuing in new relationships. You’re not sure what to do. 

 

We wanted to shift the focus this week from red flags and warning signs to green flags and what good and amazing things to look for in relationships or to pay attention to when you see them come up. 

 

We love this focus on the good, because here at The Relationship Recovery we deal with a lot of heavy stuff sometimes and so it’s refreshing to be able to talk about and focus on a lot of the good things in dating and in relationships.

Ep: 124

How to
Break a
Trauma Bond

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Have you tried to leave your relationship and can’t? Do you leave only to return back to the situation that you know is not good for you?

In this episode, we will be covering “Trauma Bonds” in detail. We will educate you on what they are but more importantly, we will give you some tools to help you begin to break that bond that holds you tightly in a toxic abusive relationship.

Ep: 121

Tips to
Survive the Holidays with a Narcissist

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With the holidays coming, there's almost a shift in the air.

 

Things can start to feel heavy when you know that those holidays mean you are dealing with someone that has narcissistic tendencies.

 

If you're feeling that way, this episode is for you. Kierstyn and Tiffany share some great examples of narcissists from some of our favorite holiday movies to start off this episode, then we'll talk about what a narcissist is, tools you can use to to protect your energy, how to not feed into a narcissist and more.

Ep: 118

Can you
determine
divorce by
length of years?

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No Matter Where You Are On Your Journey, It’s Helpful To Know When The Risks Of Divorce Are Highest.

Let’s spend a few minutes together to see how the risks of divorce rise and fall over the course of a marriage.  Even if this doesn’t directly apply to your situation, knowing about these risks gives you helpful insights.

In this podcast you’ll discover:

-Which years of a marriage are the safest with the lowest risk of divorce. 

-The “cheating years” and when they’re likely to take place. 

-The new risks that can surface in years 5-8 of a marriage.

-How to avoid the complacency traps of marriage.

Ep: 115

The Anxious 
Preoccupied  
Attachment Style

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Discover The Characteristics of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style.

Many feel underappreciated.

People in this attachment style often seem to stir up jealousy.

They worry a lot.  There are negative reactions – when there’s no need for these reactions to take place.

In this special podcast, you’ll discover: 

-Why roughly 1 in 5 people fall into this style.

-Why some people worry so much about abandonment.

-Why perfectionism and insecurity so often go hand in hand.

-How to move beyond the clinginess that can derail a relationship.

Ep: 112

How to
Navigate a High Conflict Relationship

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Divorcing somebody with a personality disorder is one of the toughest things you’ll ever go through.  

It can spin out of control in a heartbeat.  You can easily stagger from something that’s difficult into something that’s a full-blown disaster.

But there are common sense steps you can take to soften the blows.

In this podcast you’ll discover…

-Why you need a strategy when you divorce somebody with a personality disorder.

-How to soften the blows of all the emotional terrorism you’re subjected to.

-How to be intentional and why this is so helpful.

-What to do when there are kids.

Ep: 109

Refueling After
a Breakup

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You don’t need to feel stuck.  

There are simple things you can do to speed up the healing process… without watering it down or making it superficial.

Like many things in life, taking the first step is the hardest part of the process.  Fortunately, this first step doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this special episode you will find:

-Why you lose so much physical and mental energy following a breakup. 

-What to do about getting this energy back.

-How to shorten the amount of time the healing process takes. 

-Why so many people benefit from a simple morning routine. 

Ep: 106

Self Sabotaging While Dealing with a Toxic Partner or Ex

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We all do it.  We sabotage ourselves in all kinds of different ways and for all kinds of different reasons.

Including when we are dealing with a toxic partner or ex-partner. 

Will this ever stop?  Are there practices we can follow to make self-sabotage less of a habit?

In this episode, we will show you how to get started.

Like so many other steps we take on our healing journey, the first step is awareness, an understanding of what self-sabotage really is.

It’s essential to know how this disrupts your relationship, your life and your healing.

The challenge is to stop piling on shame.

To help, we’re sharing a collection of insights and tools you can use to push back against self-sabotage.  

Ep: 103

Love Bombing:
Is it Happening to You?

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“How do you know if you are being Love-Bombed?” is one of the most common dating questions we receive.  

 

Love bombing is a common tactic used by a narcissistic abuser. They shower you with gifts, words, affection until they feel like they have you hooked. Once you are hooked, they change their tone and become highly critical of you until they discard you altogether. 

 

Being on the receiving end of love bombing can be seductive and overwhelming.  It can happen in any relationship, not just romantic.  So it's crucial for everyone to learn the signs to avoid getting stuck in the web. 

 

In this week's episode, we will be breaking down what love bombing is, what the signs are, what the narcissistic abuse cycle is, and what part love bombing comes in, and answering all our listeners' questions about love bombing. You won't want to miss this one! 

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